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[caithream]

So if you've been following the ~story of my life~ you know my coworker and I kind of hate each other. She hates me for NO REASON other than that I exist (no seriously, I have ZERO IDEA), and I am endlessly tired of her generally being rude, condescending, and looking at me like I'm something scraped off the bottom of her shoe. I ALWAYS try to maintain a good mood at work, even if I don't feel like it, whereas she's almost always bitchy for reason I can't even attempt to understand.

Today my boss sends me a message: please add everyone on my phonecall list to the calendar for this afternoon, so I have time set aside to call them back. So, I do.

An hour later I get this long message from my coworker, demanding to know why I added so many people to the calendar and, short of outright calling me a moron, berated me about why I can't do that. So I simply replied with, "because [my boss] asked me to. She told me to set telephonic appointments for the afternoon, so I did." WELL. The reply I got back was something along the lines of, "seeing as how you were at the office meeting a few weeks ago [which, JFC, do not even get me started again] you should know to only set those appointments after 4pm" and berated me yet again that I am wrongwrongwrong and doing wrong things and full of WRONGNESS. So I replied back, "I am very much aware of setting them after 4pm. But seeing as how [my boss] said [and then I copy and pasted my boss's earlier message about SETTING THEM FOR THE WHOLE AFTERNOON], I went ahead and did it. I was not aware that I had to go through you when I am requested to do such things. Please advise for how to handle later situations." UGH I KNOW I'm so passive aggressive, and I know some people can't stand that, but that's my go-to defense mechanism.

I hit send and left for lunch. When I came back there was a reply back saying something like, "I wasn't aware that [boss] had told you to set appointments for the whole afternoon." And then, AND THEN, she still switches it on me to be my fault by saying, "In the future tell me these things. All I ask is that I be in the loop." Which, yes! That's 100% understandable. However, a) you PROBABLY could have done a better job of finding out what was going on instead of berating me like a lobotomized five year old and b) this was a conversation strictly between my boss and myself. How the hell am I supposed to know to include you in it? If anything, it should have been my boss to let her know.

So after that message I just went, "wtf ever" to myself and went on with my day. Including sounding not the least bit phased when I had to pass phonecalls on to her.

Just before I was getting ready to leave for the day, my boss goes, "Heeeeey, sooooo, I saw all those messages you and the coworker sent?" And I was like, lol awkward, but pretty much resolved to not sound sorry about it. AND, I even surprised myself by saying, "Yeah... [coworker], she's not... rude? But she's sometimes very... demanding and difficult." And my boss agreed that sometimes she does get a bit snippy. But I really just hope it sticks that I'm not having the greatest of times with her. OF COURSE then my boss went on to say that we aaaaall just need to ~communicate~ and that'll make everything just peachy, and yeah, I can still tell when "we" is directed at me. Which is so WONDERFULLY hypocritical, it's amazing. Like, for example, I'll get a phonecall and have to tell the person on the phone that my boss/my coworker isn't available at that time because, well, they aren't. BUT THEN I'll get a message from one of them stating quite curtly, "Next time it's so-and-so, interrupt me and let me know." YES. I AM PSYCHIC AND SUPPOSED TO KNOW THESE THINGS. A+ job at communicating there yourself. Oh my goddddd it's just, it's so frustrating. I am not even joking when I say that 75% of the time I feel like I'm never doing the right thing, or I'm two seconds away from pissing my coworker off. More often than not, if I have a question on something, I never ask my coworker, because she'll more than likely be snotty with me because I've interrupted her or whatever the fuck. Honestly, it's not like I'm aiming to be BFFs forever with either of them, but after working with them for a whole year I still feel like I'm their nuisance and stick out like a sore thumb. Communication my ass.

Whatever. Even though tomorrow and Friday will be awkward as hale, since my boss will be out of the office and it'll be just me and the coworker, I'm keeping in mind that in TWENTY DAYS I'll be leaving for Europe. Twenty days!! That's nothing. I still have so much to doooo lskdjfsldjf. So! I am going to try my best not to let this bother me so much, but. We'll see. I seriously cannot wait to just leave this place behind me.

In other WAY BETTER NEWS, happy birthday to my favoritest regala_electra QUEEN OF DISNEY WORLD and the Time Warp. I would force a hug on you if you were not roughly 320948 miles away. ♥

Also, this video? THIS VIDEO. HEARTS IN MY EYES FOREVER, OKAY.

Comments

[skygazing.livejournal.com]

ugh so not cool. Sometimes people are just so frustrating to work with. I'm totally passive aggressive too though...if people were complaining about not getting adequate information, I would probably start copying them on everything, like "well, you wanted to know..." haha.

EUROPE! WOOT! :D

[caithream.livejournal.com]

HA, that is EXACTLY what I was thinking of doing; even my dad mentioned doing that, haha. Like, hi, I feel like after working there a year you could trust me to do some things by myself without letting you know? But apparently not. SIGH.

VERY MUCH SO! I CANNOT BELIEVE it's finally here! :D

Maybe?

[marishna.livejournal.com]

I know you don't want to do it but you might just have to say fuck it and write her an email or something to the effect of, "Is there something I did or can correct to make our working relationship more efficient? I feel like you dislike my performance or the way I'm doing something without letting me know why and I'd like to be able to work with you instead of finding out after the fact that I could have done something better or differently."

I had a co-worker during my brief first stint at my job who was very stand-offish and I thought she didn't like me from her demeanor and the way she presented herself. But at the end of the summer I finally said something like, "I don't think you like me" and she instantly was like--I totally didn't mean to come off that way! And we were good after that. She's someone who comes off cold and almost bitchy but doesn't realize that people who don't know her don't realize that her offhand comment isn't being MEAN, it's just her and she's trying to make a joke that doesn't get there or that she's snarky.

Maybe if you actually bring her attention to the fact that she's abrasive to you she might realize she doesn't have to be quite such a persnickety bitch.

Re: Maybe?

[caithream.livejournal.com]

I've definitely been thinking of doing something like that. And I should! But, ugh ugh ugh. CONFRONTATIONS. I hate them so much. And the problem with my coworker is that, honest to God, every time she talks about a client/opposing counsel/Judge/etc, it's almost ALWAYS derogatory. And I'm just like, how can you be so miserable! Why must you constantly say bad things about EVERYONE? But... maybe she just doesn't realize she's doing it? As weird as that is. But yeah, maybe if I just... brought it up with her, she'd at least realize what a jerkoff she's being. SO frustrating. :(

[http://users.livejournal.com/__tiana__/]

I am boggled by the behavior you describe! BOGGLED. Clearly your co-worker does not want to be happy with you (or IN LIFE), so goes out of her way to make you feel bad. Which is ludicrous, because you're awesome! I know these things! It's hard to believe there is this much drama in a three person office. Maybe you should install a PA system and announce your every move in an attempt to ~communicate~. :D *ATTENTION OFFICE, I AM GOING TO THE LADIES ROOM. THE PHONE MIGHT RING.*

Hang in there, Europe is sooooon! :D

In other news, that video did me in when I watched it the other way. If you watch it again, look at Jared when Jensen says that most people put the puppies down. He flinches, and looks up, in that universal 'I'm not gonna cry I'm not gonna cryyyy'. GAH. Both of those boys!

♥

[caithream.livejournal.com]

D'awww you! ♥ I KNOW, the drama for such a small office is just stupid! And I'm just being dragged into it because of her! I don't know, she just NEVER has a good thing to say about anyone (even our own clients), and I just marvel at how miserable one person can be.

ATTENTION OFFICE, I AM GOING TO THE LADIES ROOM. THE PHONE MIGHT RING.

LOLOLOL TI, I am not even JOKING, I have thought about doing just that. IMPORTANT OFFICE MESSAGE: I will be blowing my nose for the next ten seconds, just thought I'd let you know.

But yes, better and happier things! LIKE OH MY GODDDD I DID NOT EVEN SEE JARED DOING THAT THE FIRST TIME, MY HEART, MY HEART. How they are so magical and wonderful I will never know. ♥_♥

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[caithream.livejournal.com]

Noooo photobucket, depriving me of seeing things worth seeing!

[whispered-theme.livejournal.com]

Seriously? Can you not see it? Shows up fine with me... what's going on?!!

[caithream.livejournal.com]

It says bandwidth exceeded. :( Photobucket is dumb like that sometimes. Or maybe it's just my computer, haha.

[mousewings.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry. That all is not professional. Sounds like a case of super-micromanagement and your colleague is ridiculous. I'd also be completely passive-aggressive in that situation once I got my feelings under control (which'd be difficult for me). Your boss seems to be not too in tune with what's happening either. I wish you all the best for your days with being with bad!coworker alone. Tell yourself it'll be over in fourty-eight hours.

Keep on thinking about your vacation too. You deserve the break. *hugs*

[caithream.livejournal.com]

Can I just tell you how much I love your icon? :D

!!! Okay, YES, because see, I seriously cannot tell if I'm just following general rules that need to be followed, or being micro-managed to death. It's a little bit ridiculous. But thank you, I appreciate it! At least whatever happens at this job means I can handle whatever happens at my next job a little better, haha. ♥

[berreh.livejournal.com]

ugh, babe, that sucks. :( It is not professional at all and your boss ought to be standing up for you, not all HEEYYYY SOOOOOO. Blech.

[caithream.livejournal.com]

BASICALLY. But no, since they've worked together for the past seven years or so and I'm just the lowly receptionist, I'm the blame dumping ground. :\

[skies-of-honey.livejournal.com]

I seriously respect you for not only staying at that awful job, but for staying positive at work. I don't think I could do it, which definitely makes you a stronger person than me.

[caithream.livejournal.com]

Haha, well thank you! I really don't know how I've done it myself, but I don't think it's so much being strong as it is reminding myself daily, just a few more months, just a few more months. Then I never have to step foot back in there!