*huggles you* I know everyone here has already said "I know how you feel," but I think the reason most of us do is because you're not alone in your loneliness. I know I've been there. I remember sitting on my living room couch while my mom and stepdad exchanged helpless looks, bawling my eyes out because all my friends just go away and I hate being alone and there must be something wrong with me. Remember, just because your age doesn't still end in -teen doesn't mean that you're all done with the mopiness and the moodiness and the hormonalness that is the teenage years. That's still going on, and it doesn't help, I know.
Also, having an S.O., like Wendy said, doesn't make the loneliness go away automatically. When I was in high school, I just wanted desperately for someone to notice me, and I was just yearning to be loved... and then a 24-year-old noticed me, and you know the rest of the story from there. Having a boyfriend (or girlfriend, or however you roll :P) doesn't magically solve everything, unfortunately. I mean, at first, you get all caught up in the NRE (New Relationship Energy) and the rest of the world goes away for awhile, but then that fades, and honestly, all you *really* have in the end is yourself, and if you don't love yourself, then it doesn't matter how many boyfriends you have, they're not going to *make* you happy.
And speaking of being caught up in NRE and the rest of the world disappearing... that's probably where your friend is. It's not that he doesn't care; he's just in his own world right now, involved in the CTMYV, and he just needs a little reminder that you're still there. Who knows, maybe he's sitting there right now, going "You know, Sarah hasn't contacted me in over a month. I wonder what's going on with her? I wonder if she's mad at me?"
*Plubby mwahs* You're adorable, by the way. I think there's usually a natural progression of things after high school, and a lot of people tend to just go their seperate ways. Its why the college experience is so unique... everyone's missing their high school friends, and when they move into the dorm, they find new friends. I know you still live with your parents, but you do go to college classes, right? I would see if you can organize a study group or something. It would help you make connections with people beyond just sitting in a classroom with them.
Ahahaha.... I feel the sudden urge to make a "liar, liar, pants on fire" joke, but you're not lying when you say he's just so damned beautiful that its almost not fair.
![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
timeasmymeasure
no subject
Date: 2007-06-25 10:59 am (UTC)Also, having an S.O., like Wendy said, doesn't make the loneliness go away automatically. When I was in high school, I just wanted desperately for someone to notice me, and I was just yearning to be loved... and then a 24-year-old noticed me, and you know the rest of the story from there. Having a boyfriend (or girlfriend, or however you roll :P) doesn't magically solve everything, unfortunately. I mean, at first, you get all caught up in the NRE (New Relationship Energy) and the rest of the world goes away for awhile, but then that fades, and honestly, all you *really* have in the end is yourself, and if you don't love yourself, then it doesn't matter how many boyfriends you have, they're not going to *make* you happy.
And speaking of being caught up in NRE and the rest of the world disappearing... that's probably where your friend is. It's not that he doesn't care; he's just in his own world right now, involved in the CTMYV, and he just needs a little reminder that you're still there. Who knows, maybe he's sitting there right now, going "You know, Sarah hasn't contacted me in over a month. I wonder what's going on with her? I wonder if she's mad at me?"
*Plubby mwahs* You're adorable, by the way. I think there's usually a natural progression of things after high school, and a lot of people tend to just go their seperate ways. Its why the college experience is so unique... everyone's missing their high school friends, and when they move into the dorm, they find new friends. I know you still live with your parents, but you do go to college classes, right? I would see if you can organize a study group or something. It would help you make connections with people beyond just sitting in a classroom with them.
Ahahaha.... I feel the sudden urge to make a "liar, liar, pants on fire" joke, but you're not lying when you say he's just so damned beautiful that its almost not fair.